Are you over complicating this? Are you making this harder than it needs to be? If you’re anything like me and I’m guessing you are, there are times when you get stuck in your own head and need a way around. I want to share with you an experience that I had recently.
I often will sign up for new programs. I would so much rather rely on the expertise of people who have gone before than to reinvent the wheel. If somebody has and offering and it sounds like it can solve my problem, I am 100 percent willing to invest in that program to make the path easier for myself. But, I experienced a conundrum. I was excited about the beginning of the program, all that I was learning, the mindset shifts I was experiencing when, at the three-week mark, I hit a wall.
The Kolbe Assessment, an evaluation I took in 2016 came to mind. One of the levels it evaluates is Quick Start. People who are high on Quick Start are fast to take action with new ideas. They may not necessarily get around to implementing everything, but they do start a lot of different stuff. I am higher than the median on Quick Start. I do finish a good amount of the projects that I start but I also have a lot of ideas. What if, I was stuck in Quick Start mode but would never finish??
I began a new program and I wanted the results that others had. I knew there was a path from A to B, right? That’s why I brought the program, to explain how to get from where I was to where I wanted to be. I knew that it was possible, but everything was feeling complicated. The enthusiasm and energy from the beginning of the program had started to wear off, it just seemed confusing. Like everything was kind of jumbled up in my mind. Has this happened to you? I would love for you to write to me and let me know. Have you gotten to the point where you could not see the path forward?
The demons appeared
I decided to take the next step on the path outlined by the instructor, trusting they would not lead me astray. And everything began to open up. I had to push the demons aside and just move forward in faith.
Why I got stuck
I lost track of myself and what I was already great at in trying to implement just like the instructor. You can use others’ information as a framework but it should never replace your specific magic.
I confused something uncomfortable for failing. Because I couldn’t see each next step I worried that the path would disappear, but it didn’t. The right path is always available.
The 4-Step Process for Moving Forward
1 — Remember Your Strengths
2 — List Your Successes (things that were once hard but are now easy)
3 — Recall Your Vision
4 — Take the Next Small Step.
When I did this four-step process, the noise and nonsense fell away and my desired outcome became clear again. In this case, what became clear was that I had six pages of notes of exactly what my ideal clients needed from me to improve their situation. And as luck would have it, I was able to whittle this down to 52 specific questions. I am thrilled to be able to answer these questions on my podcast anchor.fm/momentumaccountability and here.
You will only ever know the next few steps ahead. Trust yourself, your strengths and your past successes to know that you will figure out the next best step to take. And when you become frazzled, follow the four-step process to come back to clarity.
Scrap it and Start Over
There are times when you may need to scrap it and start over. If you are working and working at something and not making progress, start with a fresh page and try again. Apply all that you have learned in the first round that was not successful. You will make progress faster and in better alignment with your vision.
I’d love to hear from you. Where are you overcomplicating things?
I was sitting at dinner with an acquaintance. We were on a break from a business transformation retreat and just squeezing in a few more bites before heading back in. Out of nowhere, or so it seemed to me, she says, “You know, you are ‘half-fairy’, right?”
My brain stopped. What? Did I hear her correctly?
“Um, I am not sure what you mean. I’m what?” I sputtered out. Over the next hours I grappled with this and what she could have possibly meant and then when to ask a good friend. A person I was sure would say, “Oh, that’s silly” and everything would be right in my world again. But no, that friend replied, “Of course. Didn’t you know?”
Grinding halt, number 2. I asked Google. My friend reassured me. “Don’t worry about it. We’ll talk in the morning.” Ok, so for now I was just to sit on this idea and try to sleep.
In the morning, I found my friend first. She introduced me to two more people who could explain what all this supernatural talk meant.
Why did all of this fairy talk bother me so much?
For the past year I had been enrolled in an advanced business coaching course. How I saw myself was shifting. For the longest time, I had put others before me. Others’ dreams before my own and I had left my work to the very last moment of the day. I would send emails after the kids went to bed and wouldn’t take work that conflicted with my family’s needs. But all of that was starting to shift. From the outside, all was well and my business was growing. But on the inside, I was still putting myself and my work last.
When I heard the words, “half-fairy”, what I REALLY heard was ‘You are special.” “You are unique.” It was seeing something in me that I didn’t see for myself. I signed on with Business Reiki Master Victoria Whitfield and asked her all the questions that I didn’t understand about this fairy-business. But in the end, the work we did (and continue to do) centered around my own self-worth.
An Opportunity to Connect
As I have been working on the Creating Momentum Book, I have been asking what I could share that would make the biggest difference for you and I received this response:
“I am someone who has big goals and big dreams, but I keep getting pulled into distractions and losing focus on daily habits and such that would help me to be able to accomplish things other than basic mom stuff. I have stepped back into entrepreneurial ship and I'm hoping to pursue real estate investment in the future.”
I immediately saw myself in her words. I saw myself before the fairy revelation. I had big hopes and dreams, too! I kept getting distracted! I couldn’t form habits! I couldn’t accomplish anything beyond the basic mom stuff! I thought, at the time, that I was doing my family a favor to put their needs first. But the reality was that I was denying all the gifts that had been given to me. I was refusing to use them. I was operating on empty.
The Way Out
For me, the way forward began when I reconnected with myself and my dreams. Not just saying, “I hope to one day be a world renowned organizing and productivity consultant,” but actually acting like I already was one. It took seeing the Vision for myself and then acting in small ways as if it were already, true. From here, life become more and more joyful as I came back into alignment with the gifts I had been given.
Just for kicks, this summer, during my branding photoshoot with Ale B I had photos taken of myself dressed and positioned as the Archangel Jophiel. A further extension of seeing myself in this bigger, more special, more unique way. I’ve never shared them before. But for you….
Last night, I was watching X-2: X-Men United with my children. If you are not familiar, X-Men is a comic based on the idea that there are people among us, mutants, with special abilities. They can walk through walls, freeze water, control fire, access people’s thoughts, etc. The comic has been made into at least nine movies over the years.
In one scene, Nightcrawler, a mutant with the ability to teleport, was speaking to Storm, a mutant with the ability to control the weather. Nightcrawler, who has a strong sense of faith, was surprised at Storm’s deep anger. He asked her about it and she responded that this anger has helped her survive.
I wondered in that moment. What do we hold on to that helps us survive but not live? So often, we have beliefs, habits, behaviors that keep us “safe” but prevent us from experiencing life and learning. Thankfully, for Storm, she would have the opportunity to learn that faith can also help you survive.
Nightcrawler could teleport anywhere he could SEE.
Nightcrawler’s power was limited to teleporting where he could see, with his eyes (or so he believed). When you are looking to move forward, to access somewhere you have never been, you need to be able to SEE where you are going. This is your VISION. Before you can move, you must be able to see where you are going.
If he couldn’t see where he was going, he could end up in a wall.
He warned he fellow X-Men that if he couldn’t see where he was going he could end up teleporting into a wall. If you do not take the time to visualize where you are going, you will end up in a wall. You will end up STUCK and unable to move forward. Have you experience this? Have you attempted to move forward without first SEEING where you are going and found yourself stuck in a wall?
Your EYES are not the only way that you see.
Later in the movie, Nightcrawler was asked to teleport to a place he could not see and save the leader of the X-Men. Without Nightcrawler the leader would perish. Failure was not an option.
Nightcrawler was limited by his belief that his eyes were required for vision. We are often like Nightcrawler thinking that we need to SEE results with our eyes in order to move forward. We think that we need to see the process in order to act on it. How often are we limited by this?
It also takes BELIEF.
Nightcrawler was wary and Storm, having experienced Nightcrawler’s faith, returned to him the gift and said, “I have faith in you.” She believed in him and his ability to teleport to a destination he could not see with his eyes.
Belief was the missing piece. Once Nightcrawler believed that he could see where he was going, he didn’t need to actually see his destination with his eyes. He successfully teleported into a room beyond a massive door and back out again, rescuing the leader. All (almost) was well. Nightcrawler’s ability had grown. I imagine if this were a video game he had just ‘leveled up’.
What are your limiting beliefs?
What is limiting you from moving to your next level? Do you think you do not have enough time? Do you feel like you need more knowledge? Do you think that a certain number of clients are required? Do you think you have to do it all by yourself? What is keeping you trapped moving only to places you can see?
What can you learn from Nightcrawler?
1 - Teleportation to places beyond where you are right now, requires VISION.
2 - BELIEF in yourself fills in for all that you can’t yet see.
Which one of these is the sticking point for you?
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I met today with another fantastic fabulous CEO who graciously agreed to an interview. She was the 15th one and all of these will become part of my forthcoming book, Creating Momentum. Her interview was brilliant! I cannot wait to share it with you. (if you want a sneak peek of hers and the other 19 interviews, you can join 90 Days to Success!)
I went into this interview believing that she would talk about Vision and I was not disappointed. She hit the vision nail on the head. She laughed when I asked which of the 9 principles she thought she embodied the most. Vision was the obvious answer. BUT, as every one of my interviewees has shared and confirmed, each of the 9 principles is absolutely necessary. They create a blueprint.
It starts with Vision, Mission and Core Values & Culture. But quickly you move to the tools that are necessary to implement the first three. And those tools are time & task management, systems and organization. In the end, you also need strengths, connection and focus to truly create a sustainably successful business. All great businesses have all 9 principles.
Organization ensures that you are consistently making decisions and clearing the clutter. Things are where you say they are and everyone knows where to find them. Your work space is conducive to getting the job done.
Systems allow you to create consistent, repeatable processes that make your time more efficient, ensure your customers are getting the best possible service and that you can share the job of running the business. You cannot do it all!
Time & Task Management means you you know you are picking the right task for any given moment. You are working with your brain and your body so that you can be efficient with your time and work. You have space for the activities that will grow your business and that you are not always putting out fires.
No matter what, every decision is made based on your Vision, Mission and Core Values. But, with only those three you will be a flash in the pan, a one hit wonder. You need organize, systems and time & task management for implementation of your vision over the long haul.
However, if you start using your tools before you have your vision, mission and core values clarified, you will, as my interviewee today shared, quickly run out of fuel because you have no direction. Be sure to go back to this post to learn how to create your Where, What and Who and then take the next step to use your tools to create momentum.
If you need more, be sure to catch the replay of the masterclass by joining the Facebook Group: Create Momentum. I make an offer to go even deeper through the program 90 Days to Success. You can find out more and take advantage of early bird member pricing ($97). I’ll be hosting the next 9 Principles to Sustainable Success on October 26 at noon EST. Don’t miss it. The link to register is here.
My ‘friend’ is often overwhelmed with what task to do first? There is so much to do that I, ‘she’, feels sometimes like just pulling up to a bowl of ice cream instead. What would you suggest my "friend" do?
-- Ice Cream is my Superpower
Dear Ice Cream is My Superpower,
“To Do’s” can be daunting and you just hit the nail on the head with the task of handling the mail. I have personally been acquainted with many who would leave the task of opening the mail for months or even years! If your to-do list has gotten out of control, pulling up to a bowl of ice cream does seem like it would be your best bet! And, I am completely serious about this.The first step is to put yourself in a better mindset whether that is ice cream, going for a walk, dancing, writing in your journal or doing 5-10 minutes of a task that you absolutely love.
If you have handled your mindset, then step two is to understand your vision for the work you are doing. It may seem silly to create your vision when you are talking about checking the mail or running errands with your kids or handling miscellaneous tasks at work. But when you know why you are doing the work you are doing and you keep this ‘why’ in front of you then you can ensure that you are always doing the right task at the right time.
If you envision a life with a roof over your head, fun events with friends, engagement in your community, then opening the mail will help you achieve these goals and you will be more inclined to go through the mail measuring what you are opening against it’s ability to help you achieve your vision. If it doesn’t, then TOSS!
Once you have a to-do list a mile long it is likely the case a portion (maybe even a large portion) is no longer relevant. Step three is to cull your to do list. Remove anything that is past due (and cannot be completed) or no longer relevant. Then decide for each item if and how it helps you achieve your vision. Last, decide if you need to be the one to complete the task or if you can delegate, outsource or automate the item.
Step 4, grab yourself another bowl of ice cream. As you said, it’s your superpower!
Today's post comes to you from Vanessa Judelman, of Mosaic People Development. Enjoy!
I want to tell you about my client whom I call “mama bear”. She is a lovely, warm and kind person. She has so many great leadership qualities.She really cares about her team and their success.She creates great opportunities for team building. She is always there to coach and mentor her team.
The problem is that “mama bear” feels like she needs to take care of everyone. She feels like she needs to solve all of their problems. This means that “mama bear” is totally over worked and overwhelmed. She also has become a bottle neck as all decisions are currently being filtered through her.
While “mama bear” is doing so many things right, there are some critical things that she needs to change to be more successful as a leader. To start, she needs to recognize the ways in which her behavior is hindering her team and holding them back. I explained to “mama bear” that she needs to let go and start letting people solve their own problems. She had an “aha” moment and told me, “Vanessa, I thought I was helping my team but realize now that I was not allowing them to be independent.”
Through our conversation, I shifted “mama bear’s” perspective from a model of “leader takes care of it all” to a “shared leadership” model.
If you recognize yourself in “mama bear”, it is time for some shifts. Here is what the shared leadership model means:
Even if you already implement some aspects of the shared leadership model, think about the ways in which you tend to exert too much control. It could be over a system, process, structure or meeting for example. Consider how you can give your team more ownership over their goals and projects. Finally, consider what you can do to practice even more of a shared leadership model.
Vanessa Judelman, founder and CEO of Mosaic People Development, is a sought-after author, coach and facilitator. She has helped thousands of people to become more self-aware, confident leaders.
Vanessa is the author of the book "Mastering Leadership: What it Takes to Lead in Today’s Fast Paced World." She is noted as an expert in her industry and has been published and quoted in The Globe and Mail, the National Post and is a contributor to CKNW Radio. Vanessa is passionate about developing leaders who have the tools they need to be happy and productive.
I have preached this sermon myself. You need rest. Your brain needs rest. You are supposed to turn off your phone. Be present. Focus.
But then, a big project comes up. Your kids need your help with school. The fundraiser for the non-profit you are a part of is just around the corner.
So you stay up late. You text through the soccer game. You answer one more email (make that five more emails) and are late to your appointment. You feel like your list is never ending. If you could just get that one next thing done, the crazy would ease and you could breathe.
You’re waiting until you are successful to take a break and enjoy the fruit of your labor. You worry if you stop now, you will fail. Someone’s needs will go unmet. You won’t be able to pay the next bill. And so, you keep going and keep pushing, afraid to rest.
I sat in the pew at church. Listening. I hadn’t been in ages but this weekend, I felt that urge to go, to fill my soul with love and light and be reconnected. I was looking forward to seeing the pastor and hearing her message (we get into our routines, right?) But the pastor was on vacation. She was fearlessly taking time off.
The substitute pastor read from the Old Testament, Daniel 3:19-30. The passage told of 3 young men who refused to bow down to the new government and worship the leader as their god. They were thrown into the fire. God’s angel came down and protected them leaving them unharmed. This faithfulness was rewarded and the young men were named as leaders. Then she went on to read from Deuteronomy 5:14-15, the fourth of 10 Commandments, "work six days but rest on the 7th." She went on to say, if you have faith that you will be protected then why would you FEAR taking one day a week to rest?
My mind was blown. I never thought of it that way. I didn’t realize that I was afraid to rest. I realized that not taking time to rest was a two fold issue:
I needed that message. I imagine you do, too, if you are reading this today.
What can you do? What works for me is a short journaling process (it can be as long as you need it to be).
What are you afraid will happen if you take a day off? Write it all down start with the prompt, “I am afraid…” and see where it takes you. Then, respond to each of those fears with what you can control and take action on, if anything.
I’ll be creating a new hashtag, #ImNotAfraidToRest. Tag me in your day off.
I’m not going to share anything new here. You’ve probably already seen the recommendation to be grateful. You’ve heard that you ‘should’ write down five or ten things you are grateful for every day. It will put you in a better mood, help you focus on the positive, raise your vibration, etc. For a year I wrote down one good thing every day. I reviewed these, “one good thing” notes and actually found this to be an incomplete picture. All these good things did happen and I was grateful for them but I am a firm believer that learning happens when we overcome perceived obstacles. This year of gratitude left out the obstacles and the learning.
Now, instead of a gratitude journal, I recommend recognizing your accomplishments. I love the etymology of words and in this case I have chosen my words intentionally.
Recognize = Know Again, Re-Learn, Learn Again, Recall to Mind
Accomplishment = To Complete, Something you have completed (to fulfill)
When you put these together you are learning again what you have completed. You are bringing back to mind the learning that lead to success. Studies have shown that we need to be exposed to a concept seven times to integrate it into our knowledge base. Recognizing your accomplishments is one more way to integrate the learning that has lead to your success. Doing so, like repeating drills on a soccer field, will create “muscle” memory for these positive activities.
Here’s an example:
Not only do I feel good remembering and reliving the positive energy from these experiences but I see that I have been successful and the belief that I can do it again is created. In addition, I could go one step further to really drive the learning home and ask,
“How did I do it?”
Entrepreneurship and management can be both lonely and fast moving. It is easy to bypass the “wins” because there is always something more to do. But this would be a huge disservice to you and to your work. You are missing an opportunity to learn from your previous learning. Recognizing your accomplishments allows you to see yourself as successful, even if you still have a long list of things to do.
What we focus on we create more of. Instead of focusing on that list of all that is yet to be done, focus on your success and create more of it.
Every Friday I make a post of #FridayWins where you can share what you have accomplished. Add what you have accomplished in the comments below and create more success.
Here are my thoughts on my recently delivered the MasterClass, “9 Principles That Energize Your Business for Sustainable Success.”
While I was delivering the class, I was simultaneously gaining clarity on the truth of these principles and how to implement them. I’ll share the principles here just so that you have them.
These 9 could further be subdivided into the following:
WHERE, WHAT, WHO
These 9 principles came out of the development of my business and what I have observed, read, and experienced in working with other businesses. In two recent interviews I conducted for my forthcoming book, Creating Momentum, I explained these principles to two different entrepreneurs who confirmed, in their own words, the significance of these 9 principles. The 9 were especially linked to business growth.
The first three are Vision, Mission and Core Values/Culture. These define WHERE you are going, WHAT you are doing and WHO you are. If I am 100% honest, the TOOLS are not going you to success and HOW doesn’t matter. Without the first three, you are dead in the water.
Get started on each one by answering the following questions.
Vision - Where do you see yourself going? Think about this for the next year, five years and your lifetime. Imagine as if it has already happened. Your vision shouldn’t change even if what you deliver and how you deliver it varies over time.
Mission - What do you do? Who do you serve? How do you help? Can you whittle this down to complete this statement?
We provide [PRODUCT/SERVICE] to [YOUR IDEAL CUSTOMER] so that [LIFE IMPROVEMENT]
Core Values/Culture - Who are you? Who is your company at it’s core? These things should not change based on how you deliver your product/service. Can you name 5-7 characteristics of you or your company that are true no matter what?
If you need more, be sure to catch the replay of the masterclass by joining the FB Group: Create Momentum. I make an offer to go even deeper through the program 90 Days to Success. You can find out more and take advantage of founding member pricing ($47) by joining by September 11, 2018. If you miss that you can still jump in and participate.
Share your WHERE, WHAT, WHY in the comments below!
Today's blog post is brought to you by Wendy Wright, owner of The Wright Fit. Enjoy!
Be really honest here. Do you ever think about how your daily presentation to the world affects you? And do you think your personal appearance matters when it comes to your productivity? I've noticed when people are immersed in a more casual work environment, or when they work from home, they sometimes think their appearance doesn't matter as much. I beg to differ, and here's why.
First impressions matter, as do impressions after the first one! Let's say you're looking fab when you meet a prospective customer on Monday, but then you show up looking like you just fell out of bed for Thursday's follow-up meeting. That, my friends, sends a message of inconsistency, fair or not.
Now let's say you work from home and you typically throw on a ball-cap, yoga pants and oversized T-shirt for your work day. What would you do, or how would you feel, if an unscheduled meeting popped up? Hopefully, you'd scramble to look a bit more presentable, but think of the possibilities if you'd started the day in a great outfit. Let's call this authentic, appropriate and comfortable ensemble one of your personal uniforms. It could be a casual dress with tights, booties and a jean jacket. It could be dark-wash skinnies with a beautiful, chunky sweater and flats.
In Nettie's case, it was a cute wrap dress and low-heeled nude pumps. I actually ran into her at TJMaxx and took this picture.
I asked her if she had just met with a client or had an important meeting. She said no, it was just what she was wearing that day.
Needless to say, she looked amazing and I was a proud friend/stylist.
Ladies, a little make-up can also make a huge difference in how you feel about yourself and how others see you.
Take, for instance, my 3 pictures. Whew doggie, I would not want to run into anyone whilst out-n-about looking like I do in picture 1. I feel self-conscious and it's written all over my insecure smile.
But with just 4 makeup products, I feel like a million bucks, as you can see in picture 3. And I guarantee you I'll have a much better chance of making a million dollars if I present myself as I do in pic 3 vs pic 1. Haha.
So, if you're an entrepreneur or business person, this is important stuff, but it doesn't have to be overwhelming or expensive. Some may call it "dressing for productivity," but I like to think of it as respecting yourself enough to care about how you present yourself to the world. And, with a few, simple style tweaks, you can be on your way to a much more productive day!
Wendy Wright is an ACSM/NSPA certified personal fitness trainer. She created The Wright Fit to combine healthy living with the immediate gratification of great personal style. Her passion is to help women discover their potential — right now.
Wendy is a Body Beautiful Institute (now Style Core) certified personal stylist, as well as a personal stylist in Essential Color.
To learn more, visit her website: www.thewrightfit.net.
Hi! I'm Nettie Owens, Certified Professional Organizer in Chronic Disorganization and Productivity Consultant.